Sunday, March 24, 2013

Dosa Yang Merosak Pernikahan


"DOSA YG MEROSAK PERNIKAHAN" :

a. Suami :
1. Suami tdk berfungsi menjadi pemimpin dgn baik akibatnya saling melukai.
2. Suami gagal menjadikan Istri nomer satu dlm hidupnya.
3. Suami membandingkan Istri dgn wanita lain.
4. Suami kurang disiplin mengontrol emosi dan kebiasaan buruk.
5. Suami gagal memuji hal-hal kecil dari Istri.
6. Suami menolak pendapat Istri.
7. Suami tdk pernah minta maaf.

b. Istri :
1. Istri tdk menghargai Suami sbgai otoritas.
2. Istri gagal menundukan diri kpd Suami.
3. Istri gagal menampilkan kecakapan manusia batiniah.
4. Istri gagal menunjukan rasa syukur kpd Suami.


Thursday, March 21, 2013

Proposal from a Woman


Is it embarrassing for a woman to propose to a man?

Hmm. What a very hard question to answer. I once asked this question to myself, and I managed to ask my friend too hihi. Well, he answered, why not, if he’s a good man. If good men are not grabbed, then what will be left for you are the bad men. His answer made sense. He added that Khadijah was the one who proposed to Rasulullah, of course using the middle man. Thank you friend for the answer =)

There is a saying in Malay, “Bagai perigi mencari timba.” Means the situation where the girl seeks for a man to get married with. In our culture, it is totally shameful. And I am talking about no ordinary shame. It is like as if you can cover your face with something so people cannot see you or your family. Sometimes, the family that is lebih sudu dari kuah. Well, Islam accepts this kind of situation ; perigi cari timba. If not, how could Khadijah proposed right? Something's wrong in the society. Our Malay society.

As for men, if you are being proposed, or if a woman confesses to you, do not think that you are sooo great that girls are chasing for you. Should you know a marriage is to complete the Deen, and please do not let the woman down. If you do not like her, you say it, tell her properly. Just because the woman is not your type, maybe she is not that pretty, not that slim, or not that the whatever-characteristics you want, does not mean she should be treated in a bad way. You should know that it is not easy for women to confess to your face.

As for woman, to use a middle man is the best way. If your proposal is accepted, elhamdulillah. If not, just keep calm and live your life. I guess it is not easy when you know the person you like is fond of other woman, sometimes even your own friend. But you know what, life goes on. There are still lots of nice and soleh men out there. If he is meant for you, he will come for you. For the meantime, prepare yourself, be patient and put your trust in Allah. InshaAllah InshaAllah. After all, this worldly life is all lies. What we need is a spouse that can lead us with our children and others to achieve mardhatillah, and together we enter the Jannah inshaAllah. Smile =)

Friday, March 1, 2013

Vroom Vroom

Second driving class of my life. Pergi dengan Shikin. Thanks soo much friend. Boleh plak belajar dua orang serentak ye hihi. Cikgu kata memang ikut laws tak boleh tapi xpelah kan sbb kami nak balik cepat. Shikin mula2 bawak, aku paksa dia jugak sbb aku seriously tak ingat ape2. Makaseh temen kerna memahami. Blajaq balik la camna nak tukar gear, teknik bila nak berhenti, masuk simpang bla bla.. Sangat seronok. Lepas dua round pusing kat jalan tuh (SKEM), turn aku plak. Ok la (kata cikgu) walaupun kadang2 kereta nak terbabas sbb banyak berangan wakaka. Second round aku tu, amik anak cikgu, Syakir kat masjid zakaria batu lapan, sekolah agama kat situ. MashaAllah hensem giler anak dia haha. Mata besar kulit cerah tapi tak putih la. Bulu mata melentik. Hihi. Rasanya besar nanti he must be a good looking man hihi.

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