Monday, July 30, 2012

Women are Like Waves

A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. This crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself. Automatically her wave begins to rise up.

When a woman’s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. This time of bottoming out is a time for emotional housecleaning.

If she has suppressed any negative feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.

My wife, Bonnie, says this experience of “going down” is like going down into a dark well. When a woman goes into her “well” she is consciously sinking into her unconscious self, into darkness and diffused feeling. She may suddenly experience a host of unexplained emotions and vague feelings. She may feel hopeless. Thinking she is all alone or unsupported. But soon after she reaches the bottom, if she feels loved and supported, she will automatically start to feel better. As suddenly as she may have crashed, she will automatically rise up and again radiate love in her relationships.


A woman’s ability to give and receive love is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs more love. It is crucial that her partner understand what she needs at these times, otherwise he may make unreasonable demands. (Gray, 1992)

References : Gray, J. (1992). Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. Harper Collins Publishers Inc.

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Bersih 0.01

''Kadang-kadang dia tidak pandai meminta kepada Tuhannya, tetapi Allah beri kepadanya kerana hatinya bersih. Perumpamaannya, seorang ibu tidak akan memberikan lauk kepada anaknya yang menangis-nangis meminta makanan sekiranya ibu tersebut mendapati ada najis ataupun tahi cicak di dalam pinggan anak tersebut, kerana ibu itu tidak mahu anaknya makan lauk yang bercampur dengan najis. Tetapi, jika anak tersebut tidak menangis dan hanya membawa pinggan kosong yang bersih, dan anak ini sangat lurus, sangat mustaqim dan bersih hatinya, maka jika anak itu tidak meminta pun ibu tersebut akan memanggilnya dan memberi lauk ke dalam pinggan anak tersebut. Demikanlah Allah, Allah tidak akan memberi sesuatu walaupun kita meminta, jika hati kita tidak bersih. Oleh itu, bersihkan hatimu daripada sifat-sifat mazmumah kerana sifat-sifat ini adalah umpama makanan bagi anjing berupa iblis, syaitan, jin.''

Ust. Muhadir, 11/5/2011, malam Rabu, di AX 101, CFS,PJ

Is this Me #1

I did some personality test few weeks ago. Just to suka-suki.
Ta-dah! These are the result. Not necessarily be true but most of them are undeniable.

The Real Me

1. You've got great self-confidence and you're full of charm. Most guys who get to know you will be attracted to you. You are far from sweet and proper; your intriguing personality fascinates them. Most guys find it easy to fall for a girl like you. [ayat last nih nampok beno nipunye~]

2. You really care about other people's feelings and are quite serious about the issues that affect your life [not really bero]. You are sincere, and your concern for the well-being of others makes many people want to be your friend.

3. You strictly follow rules, and you expect other people to be the same as well. People can get tired of you easily, as you can make them feel a little guilty about themselves. You always make decisions on your own, and can be dismissive of other people's advice [soo true]. You like to be the leader in groups, but can forget to be concerned about the people you are with. [hmm, nope]

4. Your peers think of you as a fun person, but sometimes you can be a little irresponsible. You can be somewhat childish, and can try to ignore the fact that you will one day need to really grow up and be a mature adult! Perhaps you could start reading good books; they might help you look at the world in a different light. You do want to be taken seriously, right?

5. Your boyfriend believes that you are a strong and independent person. Your confidence and cheerfulness make you an attractive person to be around, but sometimes you need to pay more attention to what other people, including your boyfriend, are thinking. [poor my boyfriend. Wait, do I have one? LOL]

You can do the same test here.

..to be continued ~

Friday, July 13, 2012

Belajarlah!

Belajarlah, karena ilmu akan menghiasi ahlinya,
dia keunggulan, dia pula pertanda semua pujian.
Carilah ilmu, agar setiap hari dapat tambahan,
dan berenanglah, ke tengah samudra pengetahuan.
Belajarlah fiqh, dialah panglima unggulan
menuju kebaikan dan taqwa,
dan dialah adilnya adil.
Ia ilmu penunjuk ke jalan hidayah,
ia benteng penyelamat dari segala bencana
Seorang faqih wara', sungguh lebih berat
setan menggodanya
dibanding abid seribu.

Syaikh Muhammad Ibnul Hassan bin Abdullah
Fasal 1, Kemuliaan Ilmu
Kitab Bimbingan bagi Penuntut Ilmu Pengetahuan (Ta'limul Muta'allim)

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Kanan Kiri Atas Bawah

I applied for part time job. There was one Indian Guy contacted me few days ago. Asked me to come and see him. The job was promoter, kind of. They deal with jeans and shirt (if not mistaken) and will be having promotion and sales at Wangsa Walk eary July till end of August. I am almost almost meet him last Monday. Then in the morning I found out that I have been added to the LE 4000 (English for Academic Writing). This subject meant a lot because it will decrease my coursework in the future, inshaAllah.

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Walimatul Urus Syuhada & Ahmad



Bila dua hati dah terjalin,
Selamatlah pengantin kami doakan,
Moga redha Allah bersinar selalu,
Tanda bermula bahtera hidup.

Dalam melayari bahtera rumahtangga,
Ada masa senang dan masa gelisah,
Jangan nafsu diikut melulu,
Sabar dan bermaafan itu perlu.

(Hijjaz)

Nota 29/30 Jun 2012



JUMAAT 29 Jun 2012
0630 Turun bilik. 0830 Naik bus dari Pudu ke Ipoh. 1100 Tiba di Medan Gopeng, ambik bas lain ke rumah plak (last minute plan). 1230 tiba di rumah lepas ummi ambik. 1530 bertolak ke ipoh, anjang ambik ke rumah beliau di Ulu Kinta. 2020 Bertolak ke rumah Syu di Kuarters Guru SMK Ulu Kinta. 2200 Akad Nikah berlangsung setelah tahlil, makan2. 2300 Bersurai.


SABTU 30 Jun 2012
1130 Ke rumah syu untuk kenduri plak. Meriah betul, ramai VIPs dari pasukan Gerak Khas (ayah syu kerja sebagai polisi). 1330 Bertolak balik ke rumah anjang. 1420 Ikut arah kaki cari bas ke medan gopeng (mintak derang pegi dulu coz I had some problem in the washroom), dapat bus tapi berhenti kat stesen keretapi tg rambutan huk3. 1435 Dapat pujuk pakcik Ismail (teksi) untuk pecut ke Medan Gopeng. 1457 naik bus di Medan Gopeng, tiket jam 3PM hohoo. 1830 Tiba di IIUM. Alhamdulillah.

Lesson : Make sure you know at least a little about the place you are going. At least have taxi number, or remember the basic routes of buses there. What a experience! :)

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